Emotional balance is something many of us strive for. But how do we achieve it?

Each person has their own approach, and I believe the key question is: “What is the foundation of emotional balance?” Once we identify this foundation, we can construct our own emotional stability.

Level 1: Feeling Loved by Others

When you feel loved, you experience safety and acceptance. For example, if you accidentally break a plate, a supportive partner will check on you, prioritising your well-being over the mistake. This feeling of love allows you to be yourself, fostering a sense of belonging and trust.

Level 2: Self-Love

While being loved by someone is wonderful, it can sometimes lead to emotional dependency. We may find ourselves placing our happiness in others’ hands, which puts it at risk. That’s why it’s crucial to prioritise self-love. By nurturing our own emotions and happiness, we regain control over our well-being. Simple pleasures, like tending to a garden, tidying our space, enjoying a cup of tea, or taking a walk after dinner, can enhance our sense of fulfilment.

Level 3: Discovering the Greatest Love

As social beings, we naturally seek connection. However, we often lose trust due to the imperfections in others’ love. We may learn to love ourselves, but we also recognize our own flaws. We yearn for a perfect love—one that is unwavering and true.

The ideal love is beautifully described in these words:

“Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking,
it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.” (1Corinthians 13:4-8a)

This Greatest Love comes from the One who created us. It is the authentic root of our emotional balance and the essence of our well-being.

With love,

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