Being abandoned is a concept that is difficult to embrace as a gift of life. The pain of being deserted, cast aside, and left alone can seem insurmountable. In those moments, when all support appears to vanish, the world feels cold and dark. It’s hard to see beyond the tears and emptiness. Yet, for me, I have come to believe that abandonment is not merely a hardship; it can be the greatest gift life has to offer. How, you may ask, can this be true?
First, abandonment frees us from external expectations.
There are moments in life when we find ourselves utterly alone. Usually, we are surrounded by a network of support—parents, partners, friends, and mentors. But when abandonment strikes, all those external anchors disappear. In those moments, there is no one left to lean on, no one to meet our needs. We are faced with the reality that the only support we can rely on is within ourselves. This is a profound shift—a journey of solitude unlike any other.
Second, abandonment forces us to confront our own challenges.
In solitude, we cannot escape from the issues within us. When there is no one else to distract us, we are compelled to face our deepest struggles head-on. This is no easy task; it is, without a doubt, one of the hardest battles we will ever fight. The journey inward reveals layers of our soul that must be confronted and healed. Yet, it is through this process that something powerful emerges: courage. In the face of adversity, we discover our capacity for resilience, and we begin to see that the very pain we endure is the seed of a great gift.
Third, abandonment uncovers our inner strength.
When we feel like there is no way forward, we are often forced to think beyond the limits of our previous understanding. We begin to accept our circumstances, to take full responsibility for our own lives. While we cannot change the world or control the actions of others, we can change ourselves. This is not just a superficial change—it is a transformation. It is like the caterpillar in its cocoon, enduring a painful yet necessary process before emerging with wings. The wings are not given by another, but are birthed from within. The caterpillar’s strength is drawn from a source deeper than itself—just as our own strength comes from the Creator, the Lord of the Universe.
In essence, there are two ways to approach abandonment:
- We can succumb to bitterness, seeking revenge and nurturing anger. While this might feel instinctive, it ultimately leads to deeper sorrow and hopelessness.
- Or, we can choose to accept, forgive, and cultivate gratitude. This path leads to profound transformation and maturity.
The choice is yours: Which path will you walk?”
With love,
Little-pencil
Little-pencil 