Our forgiveness may not take away our pain – it may not even be acknowledged or accepted – yet the act of offering it will keep us from being sucked into the downward spiral of resentment. It will also guard us against the temptation of taking our anger or hurt on someone else.
(From Why Forgive? by Johann Christoph Arnold)

Most of us understand the importance of forgiveness. We know it brings peace to our hearts and creates a more loving, harmonious environment for ourselves and those around us. Yet, despite this understanding, many of us still struggle with the question: How do we truly forgive?

There are times when we may want to forgive, and perhaps we’ve even spoken the words of forgiveness. But something still holds us back, lingering deep within. It can slowly erode our peace, turning into resentment and sorrow.

From my own journey, I must admit: Forgiveness is far more challenging to practice than to simply say. It is not an instantaneous act; it’s a process—one that takes time and requires deep reflection. And the truth is, this journey is not just about forgiving others for the pain they’ve caused us. It’s about learning to sit with and care for the wounded parts of ourselves—the inner child that still hurts, still mourns, and still needs healing.

To truly begin this process, we must first meet our inner child. And to do that, we often need a compassionate mentor—someone who is willing to listen deeply, with empathy and without judgment. Talking, sharing, and being heard are powerful forms of healing for the soul. Sometimes, it requires opening the doors to our stories, our sorrows, and our deepest fears—sometimes, it feels like we’re peeling an onion, layer by layer, with tears falling along the way. But in that vulnerability, we find the path to our own healing.

When you have the time, sit with yourself and write. Put your feelings and thoughts onto paper. This simple act can help you name, describe, and observe what’s inside, allowing you to meet and care for your inner child with more compassion. It is a profound step towards understanding yourself more fully.

And, above all, remember to pray. Ask for God’s guidance, forgiveness, and healing. Know that God is with you, walking beside you on this journey. May you find the strength to forgive, not just others, but also yourself. And may we all remember to pray: “Lord, forgive us our trespasses as we learn to forgive those who trespass against us.”

With love,

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